This might come as a shock to some (absolutely nobody) I'm an introvert that struggles communicating. This doesn't just start at awkward first date dialogue and, end at not being able to understand the customer service representative on the other side of a call. I can't communicate with myself. Furthermore, with a breakdown in communication it's almost impossible to understand how I'm feeling.
Often times we do not check-in with ourselves, or more importantly, we don't know how to. I have put together a quick set of questions I believe you should ask yourself, not only to check-in, but to make sure you are intentional in your chosen path of life. Check-in with yourself on your future, your happiness, your life philosophy, and reintroduce you to you.
Thought Provoking Questions
- Why Am I Unhappy?
- Why Am I Stressed About The Future?
- Who Do I Compare Myself To?
- What Would the World Be Like Without Me?
- Is This for Me?
- What Do I Do In The Morning?
- Aren't We All Gonna Fade Into The Abyss?
WHY AM I UNHAPPY?
This huge question is probably one that all of us have asked ourselves at one point, but maybe haven't really answered. Like I said before I consider myself an introvert. That doesn't mean I don't like being around people, just that I best recharge when I'm alone.
For me it is important to be careful who I surround myself with. Some people are much more draining than others, and friends that beat you down or use you can fuel your unhappiness.
Sometimes you have to make the hard decision and cut people off. With seven billion people in the world I'm not going to be stuck with a group that doesn't breath life into me.
WHY STRESS ABOUT TOMORROW?
I can't even begin to tell you how much I stress over a million scenarios that haven't, and probably will never happen. Meditation is my saving grace and one of the most rewarding experiences. Focusing on my breathing, my body, my surroundings, can ground me firmly in the present.
Ask yourself what's going on with you today. Be strict with yourself as well, focus on current issues, not tomorrow, not next week, not next year. Live in this moment. You can plan for the future sure, but you can only really cope with things currently effecting you.
Cultivating a habit of asking time worthy and relevant questions will transform how you deal with problems. This will also help you dispel stress from situations that mostly exist in your mind and never materialize.
WHO DO I COMPARE MYSELF TO?
Why do we follow people on social media to compare ourselves to them? If someone else successful makes you feel less, instead of inspiring you, then maybe you shouldn't follow them. Maybe you shouldn't have social media at all if you're using it to beat you down instead of connect. Why do we glorify post and covet likes or followers?
If you look hard enough you will always find someone who has something you don't. Stop actively seeking misery, its disrespectful to how far you have come and everything you've accomplished.
WHAT WOULD THE WORLD BE LIKE WITHOUT ME?
We all have dreams, goals, and unique things that we bring to the world. Visualize what you want to accomplish in the future, the lives you want to impact, and the lives you are already impacting. Once you have that list in your head:
Imagine two worlds.
The first world has you in it accomplishing your greatest feats.
The second world doesn’t.
What is the difference between these two worlds?
IS THIS FOR ME?
The dialogue we have with ourselves is so important. Sometimes self-awareness and communication is as simple as asking yourself, “Is this (book, movie, TV show, podcast, band, etc.) for me?”
No matter the reason, if not for you then don't force it. Let other people enjoy that new movies, or talk about that TV show, subscribe to that fiery podcast, and you continue engage with things that educate and delight you.
WHAT DO I DO IN THE MORNING?
Many people struggle to get up in the morning, and without espresso, I'm right there with them. Some of us struggle to wake up day to day with purpose in our lives. How do we get excited about waking up with hours of opportunity and possibility if we don't know how to fulfill them? Are you waking up just wanting to survive the day, or do you want to thrive in it?
You make big moments, change lives, and fulfill dreams by stacking together these days. Your entire life changes the day that you decide you are chasing something greater than survival.
AREN'T WE ALL GONNA FADE INTO THE ABYSS?
We've all lost people. Whether they have lived long and full existences or been snatched from the throes of life, we know that death is amongst us. Following our every move like a dark shadow, waiting to welcome us back into nothing.
This subject seems dark but really I look at it with the utmost respect. Any moment could be our last, that's what makes life beautiful and these moments precious.
Furthermore, practice gratitude and reflection on mortality. A lot of what people chase are vane, empty, worldly things. Pursue love and change lives for those around you. Create something that will impact generations and live far beyond you.
MAKE LIFE WHAT YOU WANT IT TO BE!
I hope this list helps you determine what you want in life, how to approach it, what distracts you, and what fulfills you.
Nevertheless, making sure you are helping yourself instead of holding yourself back isn't easy. Asking the right questions can help you live a more intentional and purposeful life.